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Five finds of the fortnight: Edition 26
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Dear reader,
If you’re familiar with Nonviolent Communication, you probably know that the giraffe is often used as a metaphor for compassionate ways of communicating and seeing the world:🦒 Because of its long neck (and therefore a larger view of any situation)
🦒 Large heart
🦒 Its ability to break down thorny acacia leaves to get to the water within (just as NVC helps us uncover the precious messages underlying judgements and criticism)
So I was fascinated when I found this Twitter thread that explains how the giraffe and the acacia tree have been sparring evolutionary for ages now.
A reminder that as large as the giraffe’s heart may be, it doesn’t forget its own needs—and finds ways to meet these needs so it can survive and thrive.
Warm regards,
Ranjitha
3 Quotes on dialogue
Change happens by listening and then starting a dialogue with the people who are doing something you don't believe is right.
~Jane Goodall
True dialogue can only happen if I enter the conversation willing to be changed by it. If I am unwilling to change, to be affected sufficiently to consider options new to me, on what grounds am I expecting the other person to change?
~ Miki Kashtan
In true dialogue, both sides are willing to change.
~ Thich Nhat Hanh
Image of the fortnight: How not to listen
Article of the fortnight
Feedback at work can be tricky because few of us learn how to offer feedback that can be honest and supportive—it doesn’t have to be an either/or.
This piece by Kumar Abhishek on Forbes suggests that feedback is effective when:
It is offered in conditions that create psychological safety (and in NVC terms, we focus on the intention to connect)
It clearly conveys what the feedback is about, and focuses on what the person can do differently in the future (rather than what went wrong in the past)
It is timely and well-thought out
Audio clip of the fortnight
Clear is kind. Unclear is unkind. Listen to Brene Brown speak about this here.
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