Five finds of the fortnight: Edition 43
4 key ideas to help you redefine your relationship with your feelings 😀😟😡
For me, the first few weeks of 2023 have been about pausing, and clarifying what I want to do with my work and my offerings in the coming year. I’ll share more on this, and some offerings in the next few editions. Stay tuned!
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Quote of the fortnight
4 ideas to redefine your relationship with your feelings
Most of us have been taught a ‘positive-negative’ approach to our feelings. The problem with this approach is that we tend to chase ‘positive’ feelings, and resist the negative ones.Here are 4 principles from the Nonviolent Communication framework that can help you redefine your relationship with your feelings:
Feelings are feedback about needs. They are not complete information in and of themselves; they point towards something deeper.
Pleasant feelings tell us about needs met. Feelings like happiness, excitement, and joy indicate that something we are doing is working for us.
Unpleasant feelings indicate that some needs of ours aren’t being met. Anger, sadness, fear and other unpleasant feelings tell us that something’s not working.
When we can pay attention to our feelings, we can understand what matters to us in a particular situation—and we can move from reaction to response.
Seen this way, feelings become data points that allow us to look further into our needs. Instead of reacting, resisting or trying to change them, we can ask ourselves:
How am I feeling right now?
What need(s) is my feeling telling me about?
Knowing what my needs are, what would I like to do next?
When something goes wrong, we can be quick to look for whose fault it is—and unfortunately that rarely works never works—it doesn’t lead to open, honest conversation, nor does it help us find ways to resolve the challenges we’re facing. Watch Brene Brown explain why in this short video (<5 min):
10 ways to have a better conversation
Tanmay Vora is someone I began following on social media about a year ago, and I like how he breaks down complex concept into easy-to-follow sketchnotes. Here’s his sketchnote of Celeste Headlee’s TED Talk, “10 ways to have a better conversation.”
Upcoming learning event
Living Bridges’ new course, Empowerment Therapy with Myra Walden and Bob Wentworth is a special program for coaches, counselors, therapists, social workers and anyone else who works one-on-one with individuals. I’m particularly excited about this training program for several reasons:
It’s the first ever time this course is being offered in India
It’s a framework that brings together therapeutic practices and NVC—what a powerful combination!
The facilitators, Myra and Bob are senior trainers and have significant experience in creating spaces that are healing and empowering
And its a comprehensive first step towards being a certified practitioner of Empowerment TherapyWant to know more? Click here to read about the program.
Watch Myra and Bob speak about the program in this video.
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